How long should it take for me to get past the death of my mother? - doctor found twisted bowel
My mother died suddenly 7th January at the age of 50 years. She was planning for 22 months in the hospital, but was home for almost a year and will be better.
He entered the hospital because they suddenly and dramatically lost weight and had stomach pains. It turned out that a change in his gut he was doing, had his malnourished and do not allow you to absorb the medication for his thyroid.
Doctors completed drug overdose in the thyroid and in a state of non-response and then a coma. Over time it became stronger and the doctors said he should improve. Also turn in your gut that the doctors had to correct.
It was very low, and the dOctors had planned to send a rehabilitation center in the spring. He entered the hospital again, because they had an obligation and a good amount of pain. The doctor gave him an enema did not work. He got up and had planned to feed the other morning. She later died of a heart attack in the evening.
My life turned completely upside down. Not only did my mother, but my best friend too. She loved to travel around the world. She wanted a grandmother. I wanted to get a job. This just seems wrong. It was better and would eventually die suddenly. It does more harm than at the start. I cry every night. To eat M having a hard time. I can not even goodchange memories. All this makes me mad. I mean, I know that one day she would be dead, but no one should die at the age of 50.
What can I do to make this easier? It seems to work hard and to my friends, because everyone than its fair share of life. I do not know what to do.
5 comments:
I'm sorry you and your mother has happened. I suggest you seek a bereavement group and will participate as often as necessary. With or without them, but it may take years to feel normal again. Gradual adaptation to a life without it is not so terrible, all the time, but because they are so close that you can never quite overcome. Please get advice or a group of mourning for help.
I felt the same thing when my father died. I was in college and flunked out. Fortunately heal things sometimes. Later I graduated to me and to the memory of my father. It helps if you develop an action plan dedicated to the life, the memory of his mother.
My condolences to you over the loss of his mother. You need a bereavement group you join your feelings with others facing similar issues to discuss. I lost my mother 13 years ago and I still miss her! Still miss the time too, but as you will find a special place in your heart that she lives, where they visited. Birthdays, holidays and Christmas will be very difficult for you, but I remember it is very strange. This is great for the screaming and crying that is correct. I still do sometimes when I talk about it. We still regret what we did, if people could be here with us, but we know the honor of his memory, that you loved her, and she wants you the best person I can be. The honors its most!To help you to get ready - talk to your doctor and talk about your feelings with your friends. The time does not help, but for now he needs help. It is always with you - never forget!
im really sorry to hear about it. i wouldnt know how long it will take place over it, but my father died before 6 months and for me difficult to deal with the with.my father died of cancer, and instant messaging, as if my parents are my best friends.iv I asked how long it would take, I really do not think its possible loss your'parent Getov. Sometimes I think that I did not get more of it because she was able to look like I wern't the best growing importance, but at least he found the front talking to my therapist, if I Know Vol I miss my dad soooo much, and I'm afraid to lose, think of my mother also.i what you mean when you say, it is difficult to people_they act only as a part of life for them, c It is only for us, we die seems inside.itthere is nothing to remove the vacuum. Good luck with your recovery.
I felt when my father died 8 years ago. Not the death of their parents. People think they say good things about you, but do not help us at all: "At least she suffers no more," It is in a better place, "was his time to go," "Things happen for a reason: I understand that everything is being done to make you feel better, but it is not. There's really no way to simplify this, all you can do to find a way to honor his memory. Find someone who can speak. If you see a therapist who specializes in dealing with the death of a loved one. It takes time, time enough to reach an agreement with him. But please do not give your friends, they are just trying to help withoutLearn how to help.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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